Bring Intimacy Back to your Marriage

The busyness and stress of everyday life causes couples to let their relationship with their spouse go to the way side. Busy couples tend to take one another for granted and their marriage forgoes regular attention and maintenance. In the midst of this marital neglect, the intimacy of the relationship wanes.

Patty Brisben, a relationship and intimacy expert and the CEO and Founder of Pure Romance www.pureromance.com, gives six ways to bring the intimacy back to your marriage.

Pledge to change your negative behaviors. This involves actually making an effort and thinking before you act in your behavior towards your spouse. It will be difficult to let go of behaviors that you have had for a long time, but in order to have a happier marriage you must be willing to make the effort. Nothing comes for free. Just as you would work hard to get a promotion at work, you must work hard to improve the intimacy in your marriage.

Plan date nights. These should be nights that are uninterrupted with no distractions. This means no kids, unnecessary phone calls, television, or Internet. This permits you and your spouse to focus solely on one another, so that you can connect.

Find a way to share an intimate moment together. Some couples don’t have much privacy, so they will need to be creative in finding ways to be alone together. For example, Brisben explained that one of her friends and their spouse, showered every morning together. With children, they didn’t have much alone time, so they found a way to share intimacy every day.

Make a list of a few things your husband or wife used to do that you wish they still did. For instance, you may want your spouse to give you a hug and kiss when they walk in the door like they used to. Once you’ve made your lists, exchange them with your spouse. You should both try to accomplish each item.

Put a little spice in your marriage. Along with your date nights, send sexy text messages, voicemails, or leave conveniently placed notes for your spouse.

Set a good example for your children. Be appreciative and loving towards one another in front of them. By doing so, your children learn how to treat their future spouse.

Brisben adds that following these easy steps can bring you and your spouse much closer, and lead to a happier marriage.

Source: Hitchedmag.com. “Keeping Intimacy in your Marriage.” Patty Brisben.

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