A previous divorce has profound effects on a young couple.
Lee Ann and I were meeting with a couple that is planning on getting married. They both have a previous marriage in their past, and we can see that their marital history is impacting their new marriage. It’s no wonder that remarriages divorce at twice the normal rates.
We were talking about their finances when problems started to emerge. By the way, more couples fight over money than anything else. I asked the couple if they both know how much each other has in their check book. They looked at each other, smiled and said no. They were planning on keeping two checkbooks, one with his money in it and one with her money in it. You see, they were both burned through divorce, and so they wanted to keep it simple in the event that the relationship didn’t work out.
But that’s not what marriage is. Marriage is not two people coming together and living as one, you can do that with your college roommate. Marriage is when two people come together and become one. They live as one and they think as one. Do you and your spouse think as one? If not, why not seek out a marriage mentor that can help you think through this important issue in marriage.
