Couples who are trained as mentor couples are usually selected by a pastor or leader in a church or organization.
What can you offer as a mentor couple?
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Your own experiences, including strengths, weaknesses, successes, and failures
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Compassion and understanding
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Time
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The modeling of marital skills learned from Marriage Matters training
What will you learn at a mentor couple training?
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How to share your marriage story
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How to help couples identify sources of conflict in their marriages
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How to teach proven marital skills
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How to encourage couples to use those skills
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How to help others strengthen their own marriages
What are the qualities of a marriage mentor?
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Authentic and genuine
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Good listener
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Encouraging spirit
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Non-condemning
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Trained volunteer with a passion to strengthen marriages
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Willing to open their hearts and home
What are some things a marriage mentor Is not?
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A couple with a perfect marriage
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A replacement for professional counselors or clergy
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A professional referee or mediator
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A Mom or Dad
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“On call” for every crisis
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A teacher
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A “buddy”
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An expert
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Committed for long-term mentoring
What are the important marriage mentoring skills taught in the training?
Marriage Matters uses two main tools to help promote healthy communication and conflict resolution:
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Marital Assessment (FOCCUS Inventory)
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Speaker/Listener Technique
These tools are used to move couples through the following steps to resolve conflicts in marriages:
Identify the problem, issue, or opportunities (FOCCUS Inventory).
Understand the issue (Speaker/Listener Technique).
Brainstorm solutions.
Implement the best solution.
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